February 18, 2010
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I really liked this. (note: last entry where I said "this", I forgot to put the end tag for the link and everything got linkaged.)
It's similar to the realization I made this Valentines day, while everyone else was focusing on whether or not they had a significant other and whether or not they had to give/were receiving gifts. While Dad was making waffles especially for my mom, I was thinking about how women-centered Valentines Day is. All the expectations girls grow up to believe. And its really sad. I used to hate Valentines Day because I was single and didn't have anyone to spend it with. But now, I realize that I don't like Valentines Day because the world makes it into a day for men to go all out for the girls and try to make them happy and "prove" their love for them. A one-sided gift fest. The featured xanga entry that I read today sort of encapsulated what I was feeling. It was great to hear how he was finally doing things with someone instead of for them.
While romance, flowers, and chocolates are great, they definitely shouldn't become some expectation on one day of the year. I would much rather someone give me flowers just because they thought of me and wanted to brighten my day than for someone to buy some because everyone else is on some appointed flower-giving day. I want to spend time with someone and know that they love me, and that they know I love them, all the time.
I also think that guys should be more appreciated.
Comments (1)
I find the very notion of having to, not wanting to, but having an expectation or obligation to prove one's love to be asinine. So filled with suspicion and doubt we are that we feel the need to make people prove annually, and really, several times a year, depending on how you go about holidays, that indeed we do in fact still care about our comrades.
I feel this speaks about just how little effort we put in the rest of the year, that we have the motto of "Get it all out of the way at once" and have one day dedicated to affection.
This troubles me because, that makes it seem as if it were a burden to be dealt with in some way. That showing love for one another was a job, or a duty.
It should be a privilege.
In line with the article and your thoughts, yes, it is lopsided.
Then again, sometimes women get the short end of the stick.
This doesn't balance things out, it just makes it more polarized, and, to mimic you two, yes, things should be in unison, not separate. The very purpose of being together is unity.
I think there is a general lack of appreciation all around.
-Jessy
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